Mel Robbins Podcast
Ok, I’m kinda feeling like I’m stalking Mel Robbins. LOL! I’m not, but I’ve posted so much about her stuff recently, I feel like I am.
But, I can’t help it!
She is amazing and I really like the way she communicates and teaches.
You might remember on my previous posts that I completed 2 free trainings from the fabulous Mel Robbins. Well, after that, I was feeling like I was missing something. There was this nudge to keep learning and keep taking more lessons. So, I went back to listening to her podcast.
What’s cool about the podcast is that it’s fairly new. I think it’s only 1-2 years old, but it is full of helpful content. The episode I listened to recently and really enjoyed is #159. In this episode she hosts her good friend Lisa Bilyeu. I had not heard of Lisa Bilyeu before, but I have heard of her product — Quest. It’s a nutrition bar that is sold in grocery stores in the healthy isle. I don’t spend much time in the healthy isle.
Anyways, the episode was so much fun to listen to, because I felt like I was just listening to two friends banter and give each other advise. There were many times I found myself smiling listening to them. But beyond that, the topic they spoke of and gave lessons on was “Frame of Reference.”
So good.
It’s a perspective thing. It’s important and I think often forgotten in this modern age.
People are so invested in pushing their own agendas without holding space for others, that this lack of understanding fosters alienation, conflict, and miscommunication. I think that staying true to your needs is important, but also having the ability to set boundaries and communicate your needs in a respectful, graceful way is priceless.
Being independent and assertive shouldn’t equal to being mean, rude, and dismissive of others.
In a lot of cases, especially when it comes to family — the opinions that may be contrary to ours is given not because of malintentions, but because of fear and concern for our well being. Family and friends often come from a good place and they don’t want to see us hurt. If we happen to have a crazy idea that a friend or family does not understand, their instinct will be try and keep us safe. They’re doing what any good friend or family should do.
Our job is to hold that space for them to express their thoughts and be gracious. In the end, the decision is going to be solely on us. Move forward, don’t move forward. What frame of reference are you using for yourself to come to a decision?
From the title of the tool and the brief example I gave above – Frame of Reference, you can probably guess or have some idea what the episode will go over. But listen to the show as it does a beautiful job in explaining this skill in real life context and how it can be used in everyday life.
